“How do I write the last chapter of a memoir?” coaching and editing clients will sometimes ask me, wondering how to end a memoir.

It is a good question because the last chapter of a memoir is your final shot at affirming your theme and at creating a satisfying and meaningful ending to the story the reader has been engaged in for perhaps 200 or 300 pages—or even more.

Revising the last chapter is something I worked on carefully with on my childhood memoir—French Boy/A 1950s Franco-American Childhood.

As I wrote my memoir

For a long while, I had contributed to the text of the second half of my memoir, and the text had become a bit rambling. Without much awareness that I was doing this, I filled it with vignettes—my “little darlings” as many writers refer to these vignettes—I had forgotten to include elsewhere. Some of them are going to have to submit the fate that writers refer to as “killing their little darlings.”

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The result of including these “little darlings” was, when I read the last chapter, it felt like I was not at the end of the story. The end was simply not happening in the text I had written. My memoir could not end there. The last chapter contained material that was new and needed elaboration if it was going to be meaningful or even merely interesting—to me at least, but was it to the reader? These little darlings distracted from the story which was supposed to be winding down at this point. After all, the last chapter is “the end.”

So… do I add another chapter, I asked myself, or do I weed this unkempt garden of memories? Since I was at 275 pages of text, paring down—weeding out and transplanting, to continue the metaphor—seemed the better choice.

It had begun to be time to release the insight, the wrap-up, a last chapter of a memoir can give to a book—if it has been worked and honed to its essence. A last chapter is the wrap up of the theme which, at this point, ought to be demonstrated or substantiated.

The theme is frankly the reason you wrote your memoir.

Something that has been “in the making” since Chapter One needs to wrap up in the last chapter. If you can get the last chapter fixed—that is, to tell how the story ends, you are in better shape to work on and revise previous chapters—especially those that make up the second half of your memoir.

When I watch a movie, I am always reminded that many, many directors and writers can pull off the beginning of a film, but only the experienced and talented among them can pull off a satisfying ending. An ending makes or breaks a movie as it does a memoir.

I’m sure you’ve experienced this: lovely scenery, great costumes, an exposition of characters, and an action that sets up a conflict. This is a great beginning, but let’s see if it all comes together at the end.

The movie goes on and on, and, when it finally ends, you have no sense of why the characters did what they did and what the story might possibly add up to. It just stops.

Disappointing. Unsatisfying.

A caveat before I start making suggestions for the last chapter of a memoir

I am not advocating starting to write a memoir from the last chapter. No, this is about what to do now that you have written your first draft and have done substantial polishing to the first half of your book.

I am not a great believer in outlining a memoir. (See: Memory List.) Instead, you do better to write story after story and link them as you discover what your memoir is about. This is how you find your theme: by writing.

Tips on how to get the last chapter of a memoir right

1. What is the memoir about? Not the who and the what, but the message your memoir is attempting to convey.

When you started to write your memoir, you had a vision. While there were people you wanted to commemorate and events that you wanted to celebrate, there was also something more intangible you wanted to express. The something can usually be expressed in a few words that the memoir expands to 200 and 300 pages or more.

Perhaps you wanted to support the idea that hard work will win the day or that hard work will not win the day. Perhaps you wanted to affirm that you had experienced “hard knocks,” but your attitude pulled you through. Whatever the encapsulated expression of your theme—sorry about this—it often sounds like a cliché. That’s why you are writing a book: to take the theme out of the realm of the cliché and into an experience the reader will enjoy and benefit from.

The last chapter of a memoir wraps up (or substantiates) the theme in a meaningful and convincing way. The reader must come to the end of reading your memoir with a sense of having had a satisfying experience.

Does your memoir do this? A second reader is often necessary to really answer this question. An editor is an excellent choice for a second reader.

2. What did the character (you, me) do that brought the story to a climax? What was the character yearning for (heading towards) throughout a memoir, and does it materialize in the last chapter of a memoir?

Wow! That question really put a fine point on things for me. In the last chapter of my memoir, I am awarded a scholarship whose quest I had set in motion in a previous chapter. I choose a school that I want to go to (this is high school) and I get accepted. Of course, there are things in between all of this—for instance, I need to tell the reader why I want this outcome and what is conspiring for and against its realization. Also, why will this outcome make a difference?

Answers to these questions must be obvious and satisfying in the final chapter. It is how you end a memoir to your best advantage.

Many earlier chapters tell why going away to a school was important to me and they outlined the unattractiveness of opportunities I saw in my other choices. Winning a scholarship that will pay for a residential school and being accepted are a logical and satisfying conclusion to the action and the character angst that runs through the book.

Everything else belongs earlier in the book than the last chapter of a memoir—yes, even the vignette about our family working in the yard to clean it up after the long winter. That was a good story about pulling together, about the community our family forms and how a certain fear about leaving my nurturing family sets in. It fits really well a few chapters earlier where the text suggests that, in spite of my ambition to go away to school, I will miss my family. In the last chapter, however, the inclusion of this vignette dissipates the closing energy.

3. Do the episodes of the memoir (often synonymous with the chapters) support the development of the theme as it wraps up in the final chapter?

A memoir is not fiction and must tell the truth. Because of that, some writers feel they have to include everything that happened to them in the period of time encompassed by the memoir.

No! You omit what does not support the theme. You might have learned figure skating during the time of the memoir which is, however, devoted to acquiring financial freedom. If figure skating did not contribute to your learning financial skills, you do not need to mention the skating lessons in your book—in fact, were I to edit your book, I might recommend either omitting it or tying it more closely to your theme (if possible).

4. Write and polish the last chapter of a memoir.

My writing clients always polish the first half of their texts so much more than the second half. I do the same thing. There is a better way.

After you have written and polished the end, go back to the other chapters of the second half of the book to polish them and make sure they contribute to the last chapter’s wrap-up.

Now, my asking you to wrap up does not mean I am implying you need to make everything neat and orderly. No, that’s not how you end a memoir. A wrap-up can be as simple as, “And now I awaited the next phase of my life, knowing there would be challenges and I might not succeed but knowing also that I was ready for change.” Of course, it could take you a whole chapter to say that.

In conclusion to the last chapter of a memoir

These are a few solid suggestions for writing a last chapter of a memoir. If you follow their guidance, you will likely avoid the fate of movies (and memoirs) that have great beginnings but don’t know how to end.

Of you, people will say, “This is a good writer who knows how to end a book.”

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