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Writing Time Wasters Do Not Elude Me

I’m no more immune than anyone else to the plague of time wasters. Time wasters are habits we fall into that consume the time we have allotted (or could allot) to writing so that we end up not writing! Here are some of the most insidious that take up too much time and squander my writing energy. Better time management is possible.

1. Checking on e-mail before I begin to write for the day. (more…)

Is there a best place to begin writing your memoir? It’s a quandary: where do you begin writing your memoir? Many people may say: from the beginning. But, I don’t think that is the best place to start composing. The answer is actually quite simple: Start writing your memoir from anywhere in the story. Start from where you feel like writing about on any given day and keep writing as long as you wish to do so. Then, if the topic ceases to interest you and you would like to write about something else, go ahead and do so. Write about (more…)

Why are we afraid of revealing ourselves in a memoir? While writing our stories, all of us, at one time or another, come against the fear of revealing too much of ourselves. The fear is founded—it’s not always a friendly world out there. And…

As we reveal too much about ourselves, we may be revealing too much about someone else.

But, excessive revealing is generally not the problem most memoir writers face. Revealing too little is a much more frequent problem for writers I coach or edit.

Often revealing ourselves in a memoir too little can come about because:

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It’s time to add depth to your memoir. One question that I get over and over again from writers is “How do I add depth to my memoir? I feel like I am skimming the surface.” Here are links to five information-packed blog posts that are sure to make you think more deeply about your writing—and help you in the important task of re-writing your stories and vignettes so that they form a more coherent and meaningful whole. Telling the Hard Truth in Your Memoir – Are You Holding Back The post will challenge you to be more open about (more…)
Write your story now! “What are you waiting for? Why are you avoiding the real work? What will it take for you to go deeper?” —Phil Cousineau in Stoking the Creative Fires The Phil Cousineau quote above ought to be for all of us a stirring call to continue—or to begin if that is where we are at—the work of writing a depth memoir we may have procrastinated about for so long. It is later than you think. In the years I have been doing this work, I have seen writers die and writers grow too old. The energy not (more…)
When writing a memoir or family history, you will inevitably come across bits of information that you want to include, but which you cannot verify. Once you have ascertained all the facts that can be checked, other truths may become evident. But these truths may not be of the sort that anyone can authenticate. For instance, you believe your parents were not in love with one another. How to honor the truth in your memoir? Can this be proved? Not likely. All you can do is infer the truth. 1) Include inferred truth in your memoir. These truths can flesh (more…)
Memoir Ghostwriter – Five Questions to Ask When Interviewing a Potential Ghostwriter Working with a memoir ghostwriter can bring you great joy as you collaborate to produce the book you have so long dreamed of. On the other hand, it can be a nightmare. Here are five questions to ask the references your writer has given you about working with him or her. 1. Was the memoir ghostwriter able to meet deadlines? Deadlines can be intermediate such as the pace of writing (50 pages a month) or when the draft copy is due or it can be final such when you (more…)
Many writers suffer from memoir writer’s block, yet few understand—and much less resolve—its possible causes. There are a number of reasons that contribute to difficulty—especially blockage—in writing. In memoir writing, the infamous “writer’s block” can result from avoidance—that is, you don’t want to deal with uncomfortable material and so you “block.” Perhaps you haven’t admitted to yourself the importance of your material or—as a way of avoiding the importance—you are not yet telling the truth about a part of your life. Why are you waffling? What are you evading? What is the worst thing that could happen to you if (more…)
Do you have a wrong narrator problem? (This is a note I created as I struggle with choosing the narrator’s voice for a memoir on my early life. This memoir has been stalled by simply not having the right voice. I had a wrong narrator problem. I offer this rumination as a sample of the sort of writing you can place in a writer’s journal and of the sort of issue you must resolve.) Many narrator possibilities Whom to choose to narrate of the story of those years when I yearned to become myself? Whom can I trust to be (more…)
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Writing Time Wasters

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I’m no more immune than anyone else to the plague of time wasters. Time wasters are habits we fall into that consume the time we have allotted (or could allot) to writing so that we end up not writing! Here are some of the most insidious that take up too much time and squander my […]

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Where Do You Begin Writing Your Memoir?

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Is there a best place to start writing your memoir? It’s a quandary: where do you start writing your memoir? Many people may say: from the beginning. But, I don’t think that is the best place to start composing. The answer is actually quite simple. (more…)

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Add Depth To Your Memoir

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It’s time to add depth to your memoir. Here are links to five information-packed articles that are sure to make you think more deeply about your writing—and help you in the important task of re-writing your stories and vignettes so that they form a more coherent and meaningful whole. (more…)

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Don’t Wait To Write Your Story!

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It is later than you think. In the years I have been helping people write memoirs, I have seen people die and people grow too old. The energy not only to write deeply but to write a memoir at all has been lost to them; their stories have been lost. We go through our days […]