You can approach writing a memoir as soul work or you can approach writing as a depressing, meaningless struggle.
Like many readers of this blog, I myself struggle with the concept of what it means to me to be a writer.
Notice I have written “what it means to me.” I am not much concerned with how other people regard me as a writer. Don’t get me wrong: I want to be read and I want to sell my books. But, I am not concerned particularly with how other people view me personally. What I am concerned with is how I view myself.