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Writing Is Soul Work

Do you find that writing is soul work or do you struggle with doing your pages?

Like many readers of this blog, I myself struggle with the concept of what it means to me to be a writer.

Notice I have written “what it means to me.” I am not much concerned with how other people regard me as a writer. Don’t get me wrong: I want to be read and I want to sell my books. But, I am not concerned particularly with how other people view me. What I am concerned with is how I view myself.

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An evolving sense of self

For many years, I was occupied with the requirements of a family: raising kids, paying a mortgage, taking care of all the expenses that go with maintaining a household and a life, running a memoir business. Meeting these obligations required a “nose to the grindstone” focus. Too often, I asked myself if what I was writing was likely to produce income. Over the long run, this approach led to being sensitive to the marketability of my writing. As a result, writing fiction took its place on the back burner of my creative life and I went many years without writing fiction—which seemed an indulgence that I could not afford.

Of course, I continued to write memoir. This was a good consolation, as I enjoy writing memoir. Over the years, I produced a number of books some were published, and others have languished in my computer. Then came a time in the first decade of the century and the first few years of the next decade when my partner in life and in business, Martha, was stricken with cancer. Overnight, the doctor visits, the trips to the pharmacy, being awakened at night for hot-water bottles and all that goes with being a helpmate to a sick person overtook my life. Writing occupied a backseat—but to be honest, it did not seem important to me at the time. I was in a life-and-death situation.

Then afterwards, after Martha died, there was a long time of grief. The first year, the first fall, I remember spending long hours sitting on the deck of my house just staring out at the back field, I lost any sense of the past and of the future. All I had was the present. And the present was intolerable.

Gradually, I came out of this time, but it took a while. Then one day, knowing that I no longer had responsibilities of raising a family, no longer had to take care of a sick person, I thought, “Now what do I want to do with my life?” During this whole time, I had continued to maintain my memoir business as it was my livelihood, but I had not been very active as what I consider my own writing.

It was then that I realized, after years of procrastination—explicable procrastination, important procrastination—I now could pick up “my own writing” again.

The first book I wrote was my mother’s memoir. We Were Not Spoiled came out in November 2013. In 2015, I wrote The Nice-Nice Club Holds Its Last Meeting which I give away on Amazon. Then came A Sugary Frosting, a memoir of the first 20 years of Martha Blowen’s life. It was published in March 2016. This fall, I hope to publish My Eye Fell Into The Soup / A Cancer Journal.

I take up fiction.

In 1991 and in 1996, I won Maine Writing Fellowships. The two stories that won those fellowships have remained in my computer. In the last year, it occurred to me that I have the basis of a book of short fiction. I have been working on this book intermittently as I worked on A Sugary Frosting and My Eye Fell Into The Soup.

A beginning—again

I have called the new fiction book French Boys. As of now, it contains three stories. The first is titled A Good Boy. The second is Maman’s Boy and a third is the title story French Boys. The first two have historical settings. The third is set somewhat contemporaneously—in the 1960s.

Inch by inch…

It has been very satisfying for me to be doing “my own writing” on a regular basis. I set a goal for myself to write 30 minutes a day. 30 minutes may not seem like a long time, but as you have been reading in the last paragraphs, it does produce a book.

Over time, a half-hour a day multiplied seven days a week is three and a half hours a week. Over a year’s time, three and a half hours a week adds up to a hundred and eighty hours or four and a half solid weeks of writing! Of course, there are many weekends when I write two or three hours at a stretch. There are times in the morning when I write for more than a half hour. This morning, on the day that I am writing this blog post, I put in almost 2 hours on A Good Boy.

Soul work

Writing regularly on “my own work” as I have been doing for the last years has been enormously satisfying. It feels to me, and I am sure that many writers reading this will recognize what I am saying, to be soul work. Writing regularly on my own work, I feel more satisfaction peace, integration, centering than I have felt in a long time.

My memoir work with other writers has always been satisfying, and I can honestly say it is the best gig that I could ever have found for myself. There remained, however, a little bit of myself that wanted more soul than I could get devoting myself to others. Now I have found the complement in the practice of writing a half-hour every day—a half-hour on “my own writing.”

I hope you will share with me your own experience of producing your own writing.

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