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A note from Mary Anne Benedetto, a Soleil Memoir Professional from Murrell’s Inlet, SC. about the recent success of her novel Eyelash on Amazon.

Eyelash by Mary Anne Benedetto.

To everyone who downloaded Eyelash during the Kindle promo and/or passed the word along to others, a big thank you.

Here are the final numbers for the two days:

Hang onto your hats… 13,107 downloads!!

Eyelash reached #14 in all e-books Free Promo, #14 in all Fiction Free Promo, #4 in Religious Fiction Free Promo and #4 in Religious Fiction-Romance Free Promo.

I am completely blown away….

Congratulations, Mary Anne.

It is too late for the free download, but you can still procure a copy at Amazon.com.

The following is an excerpt from We Were not Spoiled by Lucille Ledoux as told to Denis Ledoux.

My parents must have had little hope of ever putting aside enough money for a down payment to buy a house of their own. We were still in the three-bedroom apartment on Shawmut Street when Gertrude was born on March 5, 1925. She was thirteen-and-a-half months younger than Marcel. I was three and a half at the time, and Robert was two. My parents, who had been married only four and half years, now had a house full of kids, but two thirds of their family was still to come!

Around this time, an aunt of my father’s aunts approached my parents about a partnership. Émilia Dulac Parent—a sister of the Joseph Dulac who had founded the plumbing company where my father worked all his life and of my grandmother Zélire Dulac Verreault[1] had buried two husbands from whom she had apparently inherited some money. While she had once lived in Lewiston, she now lived in Detroit with a son. I don’t remember the details, but she used to come back to Lewiston for extended stays. At one point, she and my father worked out an agreement whereby she would take a second mortgage on an apartment building on Jefferson Street that was then newly-constructed, and my parents would eventually pay her back and thus own the building outright. My parents considered it a great opportunity to get their own place, and they eagerly took her up on her offer. For the twice-widowed Aunt Émilia, the deal was probably a combination of genuinely wanting to help her nephew and of investing her extra money.

We moved into the large apartment on the first floor—the first people to live in it. My parents bought a dining room set with a buffet. My mother was very proud of how it looked. There was a living room in the front, as well as a large kitchen in the back of the apartment. The sink was made of black slate and linoleum covered the countertop. For a while, I had my own bedroom—something I would not have again for the rest of my growing up. In all the rooms, the floors were hardwood. There was a large yard and, in the far back, there was a shed. My parents were comfortable on Jefferson Street. I think my mother especially appreciated that the children could go out in the yard and come back into the house so easily.

When Aunt Émilia was in town, she both lived with us and with relatives by marriage in another building she owned. She came once with her granddaughter whose name was Dorothée. She had been born in Detroit and did not speak French and I spoke no English. While I played with her, we did not get to communicate much. It was on Jefferson Street that I first remember playing with other children. Across the street, there was a girl named Jeannine Dionne, and next door to us, one named Juliette Lepage.

In the evenings, my father loved to tell us stories. He would sit three or four of us on his lap and ask us what we wanted to hear about. Perhaps un petit rien tout nu[2]? Not knowing what that was, we would nod our heads oui. “Do you want your petit rien tout nu to be red or blue?” Then, he’d make up a story. I loved sitting on his lap as he told us these stories.

Réginald came along on December 3, 1926, when Gert was twenty-one months old. He was followed eleven months later by Normand on November 17, 1927. When these new babies grew big enough to sit on my father’s lap, I lost my place to them. While sitting on a chair near him was made to sound special, it clearly did not provide the same sense of comfort and security as snuggling against him had, and I didn’t like it, but I was told I was “a big girl.” Being the oldest in a family that was always getting larger, I was often made to be the big girl before I was ready.

At night, if any of us complained about not wanting to go to bed, my father would say, “That’s not a problem. You don’t have to go to bed. We’ll get you a pole and you can sleep perched[3] like a chicken.”

In the fall before Normand was born, I started first grade at St. Pierre School on Bates Street. While the school was run by the Dominican nuns whom I had seen at church, it was staffed by young lay women. I liked school and learned well. My parents must have arranged for me to walk from our house at 63 Jefferson Street to school with other children who were older than I. The year after I started at St. Pierre, Robert went to public kindergarten at the Coburn School. I don’t know why my parents sent him to a school where the teachers didn’t speak French. The next year, he joined me at St. Pierre.

That fall, on October 10, 1927, right before Normand was born, my grandmother Zélire Dulac Verreault, who was only 56, died from kidney problems in Thetford (Québec). I don’t remember if my father went up to the funeral. We didn’t have a car, but people did travel by train then[4]. I was only six when my grandmother Verreault died, and, since I had never seen her except possibly at my baptism, I didn’t know her and her death did not sadden me. What saddened me was, because we lived so far away from any of my grandparents, I did not have the opportunity to be a granddaughter. Because of that, I always envied those children whose grandparents lived in Lewiston or Auburn.

My grandfather Eugène Verreault came down to visit us once on Jefferson Street after Grandmère[5] died. I suppose he came down on the train. He was alone, of course, and what I remember about him was that he had big hands. My father had big hands, but his father’s were bigger still. I had never seen such large hands. He had worked in the mines much of his life and had become a foreman on the third shift. Perhaps it was at this time that he told a story about how my grandmère was alone one night when there was a large thunderstorm raging overhead. She went to get holy water that she apparently kept with other bottles. She took out a bottle and began sprinkling it around the house to protect it from a lightening strike. In the morning when my grandfather came home from work, he found blue spots all over the walls and furniture. Grandmère had sprinkled bluing water[6] and not holy water!

From Jefferson Street, my father could walk to work at Dulac Plumbing and Heating on Lisbon Street, but I remember that someone picked him up in a truck in the morning and brought him back at night. The business had both a service end and a store front. My father worked only on the service end, going out to install new plumbing or to do repairs in homes, businesses and institutions. When he needed transportation, he used company trucks. He would drive himself home for lunch, smelling of metal and solder, and his large hands were always stained dark from grease and dirt. The grease and dirt found its way beneath his nails where it was hard to clean completely.


[1] Born May 25, 1871.

[2] “A little naked nothing.”

[3]Juquer comme une poule.”

[4] You could also hire someone who had a car to drive you, and I would do this ten years later when I went to Thetford to visit my Lessard grandparents.

[5] We did not use the terms Mémère and Pépère.

[6] Used when I was young to make whites whiter.

The Kirkus review on Approaching Neverland by Peggy Kennedy:

A captivating memoir of love, loss, mental illness and redemption.

Kennedy walked into her first day of first grade alone, with unkempt hair that both her parents had neglected to brush. So begins her saga of having a mother whose mental illness (eventually diagnosed as bipolar disorder) resulted in multiple psychiatric hospitalizations. Her mother’s condition led to greater challenges than messy hair, of course, which included near-fatal episodes involving delusional beliefs.

The book’s scope ranges far beyond this single issue, however; Kennedy paints a vivid picture of a family’s travails and triumphs. She describes unintended pregnancies, unacknowledged homosexuality, substance abuse, military service in Vietnam, attempted suicide and homicide. Kennedy grounds her family’s history in the zeitgeist of changing times, enriching the narrative by illustrating the impact of societal issues on her loved ones.

Her sophisticated rendering of bittersweet situations evokes complex emotional reactions. Despite the masterful emotional portrayal, Kennedy sometimes skims the surface when she discusses her own grief. A grittier discussion of that personal topic might have improved the memoir, but it’s not an omission that brings down the book as a whole.

Each character-portrayed with empathy and balance-speaks with his or her distinctive voice, adding a layer of realism to dialogue. Kennedy’s straightforward writing and economical prose lend density to her telling; every page feels significant. Apt, memorable phrases–“Her voice sat up straight” and “[L]ife was an illusion. Love was the real living”–further animate the work. Kennedy’s experiences form a unique constellation, but the life lessons are universal.

Poignancy without pity, triumph without glory.

A concept that I have found crucial in organizing my marketing efforts for The Memoir Network is that of “the marketing pipeline for memoir professionals.” As a business person, I—and you—ignore the memoir marketing pipeline to our great peril. We must always be aware of having the pipeline full of prospects. This is an ongoing process. It is never done!

The memoir professional‘s pipeline is an image that refers to all the people who have connected with you in some way and are therefore your potential clients. Think of the pipeline as having an entrance (inquiry) and an exit (purchase). In any pipeline at any given time, there are many sorts of prospects–some making their way to a purchase others clogging the line by requiring attention that you need to expend elsewhere. These need to be taken out of the system.

1. There are the “I’m just curious” people. Some are looking for free information–they will never buy from you. Identify them early before you spend much time. Be polite, outline your offerings–and let them go. They will eat your time and drain your business development. They only seem to be in the pipeline. They aren’t–they’re clogging it. And if you are spending time on them, you taking time away from a true potential customer. (more…)

I have been immersed in The Lost by Daniel Mendelsohn. It is the story of his multi-year search for the details of the murder of six of his relatives during the Holocaust.

A long project

In this rather long book (512 pages), he tells of his journeys around the globe to find people who might know the story. He goes to Australia, to Israel (twice), the Ukraine (twice), Sweden, and Denmark where he interviews people who knew the family–his great-uncle Shmiel, his great-aunt Ester, and their four daughters (Daniel Mendelsohn’s mother’s first cousins).

Some of the information he gleans is vague; some contradictory. Over time, there emerges from the darkness into the shadows six people whose lives were brutally cut short. But do all that he would, Mendelsohn cannot bring his relatives out of the shadow into the full light of knowing. In the shadows, they will remain.

Daniel Mendelsohn’s articulated process

The interest for the memoir writer lies, I think, in Daniel Mendelsohn’s articulation of the process of finding the story of his relatives, of his own odyssey. The inquiry seems to change him in many ways, clearly making him the central character of this book.

Of particular interest to me was his attempts to see a really larger picture in which there is often no good guy or a bad guy–just people trying to survive in a world where one’s survival often meant that the other would not.

A case in point was in 1939, when the area his relatives lived in (Galicia in Poland) was ceded to Russia. The Jews were glad to be under Russian rather than German control. They welcomed the Russians, but their neighbors, the Ukrainians who lived in the area, were shocked at the change and angry that the Jews should welcome it. The Ukrainians had experienced their own genocide of between 5 to 7 million dead in a famine created by Stalin in 1932 and 1933–at a time when the Ukraine was exporting grain from an abundant harvest. The Ukrainians were terrified of the Russians. When the Germans gained control of the area in 1941, the Ukrainians welcomed them as liberators but the Jews, of course, were dismayed and terrified. The Ukrainians for their part were angry at the Jews for having welcomed the Russians.

Ukranians: good guys or bad guys?

There followed a terrible time in which Ukrainian atrocities against the Jews are well documented, by Mendelsohn and others, but all the Jewish survivors Daniel Mendelsohn interviewed except for one were hidden by Ukrainians who risked their lives to do so.

Are the Ukrainians then good guys or bad guys? They are both, says Mendelsohn, as we all are.

The Judenrat, the Jewish police organized by the Germans to police and roundup Jews, is another difficult group to judge. Daniel Mendelsohn asks, if he could save his own family by serving in the Judenrat, wouldn’t he had done it? Would you? Would I? Awful decisions to have to make.

In conclusion

Daniel Mendelsohn is a classics professor at Princeton. He disposes of both  income and free time that many of us do not. Nonetheless he has followed a path that all of us must follow in our own manner if we are to succeed at writing memoir.

Good luck memoir writing!

Years ago, I created lovely memoir booklets (48 pages, single fold, jacket with photo) about my grandparents that I gave to my children, my siblings and their children. It was a great success. The generation after mine (my kids, nephews and nieces) knew very little about their greatgrandparents and many appreciated this booklet. When I approached my mother about doing her life, she said there really wasn’t anything to write about. She did not seem very enthused. Perhaps another year, I thought, before I can get my mother’s memoir book started. (more…)

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