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Writing About Painful Experiences Can Be Difficult

  • Identify a past experience that continues to be painful to you—either because it was a loss or an unresolved interaction or because it caused you shame. Write a few sentences about the experience. Write more if you feel so inclined—but only for as long as you feel comfortable.
  • Now, on a different page, write a few sentences about what you will gain by exorcising this painful experience. Write about how it will feel to have your pain gone. Write about how much fuller your life will be.
  • What you are gaining by holding on to the painful experience? Write a few sentences about that on yet another page. Pain and a troubled past can serve as an excuse for not taking action to be happier in your life.
  • When it feels right, continue writing about the painful experience until you feel the need to stop again. Allow yourself to return to this subject whenever it comes up until you have laid it to rest.
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